Didn't See This Coming

Here are some stories that I came across this week, as always some are sad, crazy and just weird.

1. Togo women push sex strike to unseat president

2. Former Gov. Sanford engaged to Argentine mistress

3. Sherman Hemsley is still not buried family dispute over money

4. 10 year old Maine girl charged in infant's death

5. New Orleans hit by hurricane Isaac

6. Man sues male enhancement drug company for disgusting side effects(very disgusting, ugh!!)

7. DJ stalked men & broke in their homes & performed oral sex on them while they were sleeping

8. 2 guys arrested on drug charges were trying to shoot up heroin while parked outside police station

9. Shooting at supermarket in New Jersey

10.Perry Hall High School shooting

Didn't See This Coming..

Here are some of this week's stories that caught my eye this week. This world never disappoints. I'm always afraid that I will not have any stories to share but as long as people are sick, crazy and weird, I will be okay :)

1. Top Gun director Tony Scott leap to death from bridge

2. Red Lobster employee attacked for good service

3. Romney predicted to win election

4. Girl forced to marry her rapist kills herself

5. Parents sue after son forced to bathe at school

6. 7 year old attempts suicide twice after bully forces him to perform oral sex on school bus

7. N.J. mom who once lost custody decapitates 2 year old son

8. Rapper LL Cool J nabs intruder at home

9. Book on Bin Laden raid coming out Sept 11th

10.Empire state building shooting

Obsession: U got it bad

Have you ever listened to this song by Usher and thought to yourself, man he had it bad and you could never see yourself so hung up over somebody. Well I think we all have been here at least once in our lives. You are obessed with someone. You think about them all the time, they are always in your head. Everything reminds you of them. Every, tv show, song on the radio, what you eat for lunch, you just can't help it. You start trying to understand why this person is always on your mind. Sometimes people will confuse their obsession or longing for love, when in reality that is all it is. Most times we obsess over people we can't have or are not sure about, because if they were around more you wouldn't have to think about them so much.

I do not think there is nothing wrong with this. It only becomes a problem when you can't control your emotions behind the obsession. Once you lose control you start doing crazy things, like texting and calling all the time, stalking their facebook page, or just happen to be where they are just to see what's going. I will never understand how people think but we all know the more you try to pursue someone the more they resist and start to think you are crazy and you never fulfill your desire which is to be with that person.

The best option is to step back and give it some space and take this time to evaluate yourself and understand why you are obsessing over this person. This behavior is unhealthy. While you believe that convincing someone to be with you they would want you more but it does not work like that. Just think about people who pursued you that you were not interested in. No matter how hard they tried or what they did, you did not change your mind. The same is here for the person you have this obsession for. I know that giving space and waiting is hard but get busy while you wait and either the person will come back to you or if they don't, your obsession will lessen over time.

Didn't See This Coming...

I missed last week so here are stories for both weeks. All crazy, unbelieveable, and wierd.

1. Shooting at temple in Wisconsin

2. Two 13 year old boys steal car and drive from Ohio to Missouri

3. Randy Travis arrested for drunk driving and he was naked

4. Man becomes texting champion wins $50,000

5. Man kept girlfriend in padlocked room

6. Hearse driver dies while taking body to funeral

7. Woman has been using eye drops to poison boyfriend for years because she wanted attention from him

8. Man accidentally calls 911 during drug deal

10. Chinese boy gets head stuck in stone guardrail

Teen Pregnancy: It's all about the Green

I rememeber when I was growing up and teen pregnancy started to rise. It was looked at the most shameful thing to happen in a young girl's life. It was so much of a problem that people and agencies everywhere were trying to see how to stop it, abstinence and safe sex were being promoted. But what I noticed was that the media was emphasizing how bad teen pregnancy was in the minority community mostly in the black community. There were all kinds of statistics showing how fast black teen mothers were having babies and so on. Teen pregnancy is still a problem. But my problem is how it seems to be glamorized now since people can make money from it. The media only wants to show the majority or white people dealing with teen pregnancy. There are reality shows on TV dedicated to it. MTV has teen mom and now TLC has a show called High School Mom. I admit I did watch a few episodes of teen mom, but I stop watching when there were not any blacks or minorities on the show, especially when I found out each girl made around $50,000 to be on the show. I thought to myself if majority of the teen mothers are minorities why aren't they being represented on any of these shows. Why can't a black/minority teen mom who is trying to get back on track benefit from the money and fame that may come with doing the show? It appears that its okay to show the majority dealing with teen pregnancy when they can get paid from it. How can they deter teen pregnancy if these reality teen moms are becoming celebrities overnight sending the wrong message: become a mom and get a show.

I hate to make it about race , but when they want to show the negative aspects of teen pregnancy the focus is on the minority races. Giving the impression that only minorities have this problem but how can that be so when on these shows the majority is being represented as teen moms. It makes me question all the previous information I heard and the statistics about teen pregnancy in the U.S. It would reason based on what is represented on TV that more teen moms are white than any other race.

In my opinion these shows should be cancelled because they are not socialably responsible, they may show some of the consequences of being a teen mom but they are not effective in detering teen pregnancy, and it's obvious because these shows are still on. But I guess when it comes to teen pregnancy being shown on TV the only color that matters is green.

Men vs. Boys

As a single woman I thought I was being very selective in my choices, but what I realize is that I wasn't and I was dating grown boys instead of men. Now I am more experienced and my standards have changed and I know the difference between dating a boy and dating a man. Now it makes sense why none of my past relationships worked out. These boys were not mature enough for what I wanted and were not capable of making it happen. So ladies just in case you are not sure, I want to share some things that I noticed are different between dating boys and dating men.

Boys- Always talk about, or want sex and are in a rush to have sex with you. They are always trying to get into your pants

Men- Will take their time to get to know you and make sure you are right for them before they have sex with you and they will respect your choice to wait as well

Boys- Blame everyone else for their current situation. Everything is every one else's fault, the man, their momma, their baby momma, their cousin, who ever they can blame besides themselves

Men-Don't constantly complain about their current situation. They take responsibility for their actions and they always have a plan in place to change whatever they do not like

Boys-Are always talking about what they want to do in their life or chasing a dream that has not happened yet.

Men-Can talk about their accomplishments and things they have already done. They have realistic and attainable goals.

Boys-Are irresponsible they can't keep a job, don't want to work or take care of their kids. Some won't even take care of themselves they are wanting a woman to do it for them.

Men-Are very responsible, hard workers, always making sure his and your needs are met.

Boys-Are usually players and are not looking for a commitment just a long term booty call or friends with benefits

Men-Are not afraid of commitment or marriage, most of them want it just as much as women do

These are just a few things and I am quite sure there are alot more but this should give you somethings to think about. Please feel free to comment if you can think of any others. Thanks.

Ignorance is Ingnorance even if its only hair...

History was made in the 2012 Olympics, Gabby Douglas became the first African American to win the gold medal in the all around for gymnastics. I am very happy that she won but I am saddened and upset with the ignorance I am seeing online. I usually do not play into ignorance but it saddens me when it is coming from our own race. This young lady made history and now her accomplishment is being over shadowed by comments about her hair. It is obvious because I am seeing it every where online and I felt compelled to write about. So who ever the "hater" is who started this you are getting what you wanted. This shows some of the mentality of the black community and why we can not move forward. I don't think that only a certain group of people are ignorant, I believe that ignorance is found in every race, nationality, etc. But as black people we have to deal with enough from other races why would we pour salt onto one another. I will never understand it but I guess that is human nature in the form of jealousy. There really wasn't anything else they could say so they decide to pick on what they could and everyone ran with it. Congrats Gabby and please don't let the nay-sayers steal your glory.

Didn't See This Coming..

Here are some stories I came across this week, some are interesting, exciting and just plain strange and stupid.

1. Motel 6 TV displays racist slur.

2. Olympians are sending racist tweets.

3. The Jacksons are feuding.

4. Girlfriend misses jumbo screen proposal.

5. Dennis Rodman writes a childrens book.

6. Hepatitis C "serial infector" could have spread disease to 100s in hospital.

7. Blackout 620 million people are in the dark.

8. Man shoots fireworks out of his butt.

9. Gabby Douglas makes history at the Olympics.

10. Lawn chair ballonist fly over Oregon.