Obama...Care?

I didn't undertand all the hoopla when this option for health insurance was first being presented. At the time I was working full time and had benefits, so I really wasn't concerned because I knew my insurance was not going to change. A lot of people were upset because they felt the government was getting involved and shouldn't tell people what they should do. Well since this has started, I lost my job and I am now on the other side of the spectrum and have a better understanding of how health insurance in this country really works. I never really thought about health or life insurance until I lost my job and realized I am completely responsible for everything concerning me and my children. I wasn't sure how I was going to afford my insulin and my supplies for my insulin pump. Fortunately, I was able to be covered with the state insurance or medicaid. I guess because I have dependents. It is not the best insurance but it allowed me to receive the medicaions I needed to live. I never knew what the term under insured meant until I was on medicaid. The care is the very minimial and most specialist do not accept state aid. I had to change my son's dentist, our eye doctor, my brand of insulin and so on. But, I guess its better than no insurance, which is where I will be in 5 days. The governor of my lovely state IL, signed a bill that will cut medical benefits for over 20,000 people in the state. I got a two weeks notice that this will be happening (thanks for the heads up). I am not sure what I am going to do besides look at other options and pray. My whole basis is that the main complaint with Obama care was government involvement on decisions. But the government is making decisions all the time that we the people suffer from. My governor was concerned with making cuts because the budget is screwed up. I don't understand why they would cut something so detrimental to people lives. I didn't have any say in this and I am just supposed to accept it and try to live with it. I can't live with out insulin, but I guess that doesn't matter to my governor or government.

Is snitching a bad thing?

There was murder in the city across the river from us. This was their first homocide since 2007. It is a small community with little diversity but it's economic growth is running circles around our city that is 5 times larger. Anyhow the shooting happened and a day later they already knew who the suspects were and everyone is on the hunt. I was thinking wow; how can that small police force get their suspects so fast and our city that has has about 6 or 7 homocides already this year takes weeks or sometimes even months to get a suspect? I know that their police force is not better than ours. I started thinking maybe because the town is smaller and everybody knows everybody. Then I thought well, the city is majority white so there is urgency in the matter versus when a black man is killed. I am not trying to make it all about race but I do beleive race plays an issue in it but not for the reason you may think. I started thinking about that question and how fast things were getting solved. What was the difference? Why was it so fast and who made it so? My conclusion is that it is the community that is making the difference. In the Black commumity people are scared to speak against crime. They dont want to be labeled as a snitch because of the fear or retaliation. I understand that to a point no one wants trouble or to live in fear. But, think about what would happen if more Black people would speak up. I am not saying it would end the violence but it may help to deter it. It is sad the huge affect fear has on our community. You have the fear of the violence that occurs everyday and the fear of speaking up against it. I know how most people feel. How can our community expect to combat violence if no one speaks up? I guess you got weigh the lesser of the two evils and most people won't encourage others to speak up until it hits home. I see it all the time. As soon as their relative is killed they are on tv pleading for people to come forward and tell the police what they know. It takes a lot of courage to speak up for what is right. I know at the time you may think is it worth speaking up. That is a choice you will have to make. But, look back at what happened when people started to look the other way at crimes committed in our community. Long ago Black people stuck together and fought together there was a since of pride and loyalty among our race. That feeling is gone and has been replaced with a selfish mentality that has caused division amoung our race. No one thinks about the big picture and looks at the future benefits. I know you cant see the benefit in speaking up "snitching" at this time, but one immediate benefit is getting criminals off the street in hopes of making our communities safe.

Easy girls make it hard

I was watching Dr. Drew Life changers the other day and he had Steve Ward the match maker on his show. The show was about the modern day college dating experiece or lack of. One thing Steve said that is so true is that the easy girls are making it hard for the good girls who are trying to date and have relationships. That is so true but it not only happens in college it is going on in the dating world today. A lot of people want instant gratification they will not take the time to get to know someone and will just "hook up" with random people. As a single woman beyond her college years I see this all the time. I see that men today are very lazy when it comes to dating, most men will not do it because most women do not require it. It is very sad and it makes it hard for women like me who believe in "old fashion" values; men pursuing women, and women not being so easy to get. I know social media and online dating plays a big part in that. The number of people available to someone is endless and there is no effort to get to know someone. You just look at a picture and profile and go from there. There was a young lady on the show who said that it shouldn't be a problem if a woman wants to "hook up" with whomever she chooses and move on to the next. She then said "men do it all the time". Yes they do but we all know that is a double standard. Steve did a poll of the men and asked them if a woman had 5 partners or 50 partners who would they value more, of course they said the one with 5 partners. I believe the only way men will stop being lazy is if more women would raise their standards and require them to work for what they want. A lot of women beleive that giving it up will keep a man interested. Yeah for a little while. Anyhow we all know how that story goes. But I get frustrated sometimes when I mention to a men about going out on a date, he comes up with all sorts of excuses or whatever and you would think I asked him for a million dollars. I haven't given up though. I am going to keep my standards and goals in mind and trust and believe that some man out there will think I am worth the effort :)

Obama, you are making this hard for me

Recently Obama stated that same sex couples should be allowed to be married. I was in disbelief and I am still trying to digest his comment. First, let me say I do not hate anyone but I do not agree with the homosexual lifestyle. I am a christian and it goes against everything I believe in. As I receive emails from Obama's campaign asking for donations, I find myself struggling to support him. I am struggling between my political views and religious beliefs. What happened to the separation of church and state? I have never experienced this type of conflict as a registered voter. Now I am not sure. Well I am kind of sure but doing what I know is right is disappointing. Obviously I will follow God before Obama, but I feel obligated to vote for someone. As an African American people have died, marched and fought so I can have this right. But, Jesus died for me too. See where I am going with this? I really don't want Romney for president but how can I support a president who is for something I don't believe in. I am thinking of bowing out of this election, better yet I'll just pray about it. Please share you thoughts?

.Welcome Back!

I have not been on here in awhile and there has been so much going on in this crazy land called the United States. From the Trayvon Martin case, Obama approving of gay marriage and just stupid news ...parents put toddler in washing machine. This just proves that no matter what life goes on and there will always be something to write about. So I an welcoming myself back and will re-start keeping up with my blog. There is too much nonsense in this world for me to blog about and I will make sure it will feed you mind.. stay tune and thanks for following....

A Single View Point on Marriage

Ok so Kim K. is getting divorced, is anyone really surprised? I dont think we are shocked because it ended..we are shocked because it ended so fast. I already know that this is going to be talked about for awhile which will be an orgasmic feeling for a media whore such as herself and the rest of her family. Her mother is on TV talking about the divorce and of course "promoting" her new book at the same time. Anyone who knows anything about writing you just don't wake up one day and have a book out the next. You have deadlines you have to meet, it just seems suspect to me that all these ventures, new book for mom, their new clothing line all around this divorce. But maybe Kim was really in love and thought this is what she wanted. Who am I to judge? I know people who change their minds after the wedding. They are not usually sure before hand and it is just brushed off as cold feet. This incident shows how much or how less we value marriage in this country. You can get married and divorced all in the same day. I personally respect the institution of marriage (btwn a man & woman) and believe that it should last until death do them part. It is no wonder marriages fail, the consequences to failing are not that severe or non-existent. Being divorce is almost common now where over 60 years ago it was a shame to be divorced and you did what was ever necessary to save it. Today people seem to be committed to one another as long as everything is good and they get what they want. But, if your married shouldn't it stop being about "you" and be about "us"? Not all marriages fail but the ones that I know have been successful the people are not selfish they make their mate number one and are giving, compassionate, understanding and compromising. A lot of things this "self" ish society does not promote. If Kim's wedding was real than I feel sorry for her, she like most people got caught up in the moment and is more in love with being in love than the actual person. What do you think?

Why the Need to Come out the Closet?

I just read an article about a 14 year old boy who committed suicide because he was being bullied at school for being bisexual and having all female friends. I do not condone that behavior bullying is wrong no matter what and it is so sad that young people are taking their lives because of it. But in response to his suicide a celebrity, Zachary Quinto, came out of the closet and admitted he was gay. My position is not to argue rather your are born gay or choose to be gay. I am baffled of why, gays, lesbians etc. feel the need to share with the public what they do in private? I am a heterosexual female and I do not tell anyone what I do behind close doors and I believe as long as your are an adult and everyone consents its nobody business what goes on in your bedroom. My thing is that most people make the choice to expose their own sexual orientation, which makes no sense to me. I would have never known that most people are gay if they didn't tell. I know that some people are open about their sexual orientation and I applaud their confidence in who they are. But, the people where no one knew before the fact and tell it would appear as if they are taking a risk and putting a target on their backs. As I stated before this should be a private matter. I get that you feel like you are not being real or true to yourself, but people do it all the time. EVERYONE acts different in public than what they do in the privacy of their own home. So why make the choice to tell it to the world and maybe subject yourself to harm? You should just live your life as you want and the best way to make sure you are happy and not everyone else. Just a thought. What do you think?