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Wednesday, August 9, 2017
Would you enroll your child in an online school? Why or why not?
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Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I hope enjoy this post and please feel free to comment.
Lately, I have seen commercials for K-12 a tuition free online school. After so many times of seeing the commercial I decided to do my own research and the tuition free part really peaked my interest. I went to the website and they offer two different programs for students beginning at 3rd grade to the 12th grade. That makes sense to me, I think it would be difficult for smaller children to learn this way. At that age they will have all the basics, they are a little more disciplined and are able to sit and listen.
It looks like a good school, but I am not sure if it's something I would ever do. My concern would be my child lacking the social skills that are learned when interacting with his peers. I believe we learn a lot of life lessons when dealing with people that can only be learned through experience. In my situation, my son is somewhat growing up as an only child so most of his social interaction is at school. Even though he is too young for the program he really enjoys being around other children. I don't believe it would be an effective way for him to learn, he is an extreme extrovert. He will talk to any and everybody, he is very out going. I am working on that trait, making sure he does not talk to strangers when I am not around.
I am quite sure there are circumstances where this would be a good fit; such as, if your child is being bullied or if you child has special needs that are not being met by his school. A lot of parents prefer to home school their children as they believe it will provide a better education for them.
As I stated before it would not work for me. I believe the social interaction with his peers is necessary and I would not want him to miss that. What are your thoughts? Would you enroll your child in an online school?
Marcee' Bonds
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Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I hope enjoy this post and please feel free to comment.
Lately, I have seen commercials for K-12 a tuition free online school. After so many times of seeing the commercial I decided to do my own research and the tuition free part really peaked my interest. I went to the website and they offer two different programs for students beginning at 3rd grade to the 12th grade. That makes sense to me, I think it would be difficult for smaller children to learn this way. At that age they will have all the basics, they are a little more disciplined and are able to sit and listen.
It looks like a good school, but I am not sure if it's something I would ever do. My concern would be my child lacking the social skills that are learned when interacting with his peers. I believe we learn a lot of life lessons when dealing with people that can only be learned through experience. In my situation, my son is somewhat growing up as an only child so most of his social interaction is at school. Even though he is too young for the program he really enjoys being around other children. I don't believe it would be an effective way for him to learn, he is an extreme extrovert. He will talk to any and everybody, he is very out going. I am working on that trait, making sure he does not talk to strangers when I am not around.
I am quite sure there are circumstances where this would be a good fit; such as, if your child is being bullied or if you child has special needs that are not being met by his school. A lot of parents prefer to home school their children as they believe it will provide a better education for them.
As I stated before it would not work for me. I believe the social interaction with his peers is necessary and I would not want him to miss that. What are your thoughts? Would you enroll your child in an online school?
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Monday, August 7, 2017
How Can You Choose a Sex Predator over Your Children?
Hello all,
I hope you have a very good week and thank you for stopping by to read my blog.
Last week, I watched a couple of daytime shows and this was the topic. I could not believe that these mothers were choosing to be with an alleged sex offender. They were not only in relationships with these men, but they chose to put their children out of the home to be with these men. I was in shock and disgusted by the mothers behavior and no matter what explanation they offered it just did not make sense to me.
As mothers our job is to protect our children from harmful people and situations. How can you knowingly bring a man into your home who is an alleged sex offender? One of the mother's believed he did not do it and was being falsely accused even though he plead guilty to the crime. My opinion is I don't have to know for sure you did it, the fact that you are being accused is enough for me. I would not allow him around my children or any children in my presence.
I may seem judgmental and everyone does at times deserve a second chance, but I am not the one to give him that chance. I could not live with myself if I opened that door and he harmed my children. But, passing on a guy who turned his life around I can live with that. As a mom my kids come first, these women are being selfish and putting their wants first.
I can't imagine ever choosing a man accused of harming children over my children. The only reason that came to mind is maybe they were victims of abuse as well. This doesn't justify their decision it shows that they never received the professional help they needed.
I felt sorry for the children who are caught in the middle this mess. I can only imagine the emotional turmoil the children are feeling. I am quite sure they are feeling angry, sad, hopeless, neglected and rejected. How do you recover from this? How do you move on once the relationship ends?
I don't know how they can move forward from such devastation. I hope that whoever steps up and takes care of the children so well that it doesn't have that much of an affect on them. Who knows maybe their life is better without their mom. I learned that being a mother is earned and not given and every woman who has children does not deserve the title.
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I hope you have a very good week and thank you for stopping by to read my blog.
Last week, I watched a couple of daytime shows and this was the topic. I could not believe that these mothers were choosing to be with an alleged sex offender. They were not only in relationships with these men, but they chose to put their children out of the home to be with these men. I was in shock and disgusted by the mothers behavior and no matter what explanation they offered it just did not make sense to me.
As mothers our job is to protect our children from harmful people and situations. How can you knowingly bring a man into your home who is an alleged sex offender? One of the mother's believed he did not do it and was being falsely accused even though he plead guilty to the crime. My opinion is I don't have to know for sure you did it, the fact that you are being accused is enough for me. I would not allow him around my children or any children in my presence.
I may seem judgmental and everyone does at times deserve a second chance, but I am not the one to give him that chance. I could not live with myself if I opened that door and he harmed my children. But, passing on a guy who turned his life around I can live with that. As a mom my kids come first, these women are being selfish and putting their wants first.
I can't imagine ever choosing a man accused of harming children over my children. The only reason that came to mind is maybe they were victims of abuse as well. This doesn't justify their decision it shows that they never received the professional help they needed.
I felt sorry for the children who are caught in the middle this mess. I can only imagine the emotional turmoil the children are feeling. I am quite sure they are feeling angry, sad, hopeless, neglected and rejected. How do you recover from this? How do you move on once the relationship ends?
I don't know how they can move forward from such devastation. I hope that whoever steps up and takes care of the children so well that it doesn't have that much of an affect on them. Who knows maybe their life is better without their mom. I learned that being a mother is earned and not given and every woman who has children does not deserve the title.
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Monday, July 24, 2017
To paddle or not to paddle?
Hello all,
Recently on social media I saw where a school district in TX has voted to bring paddling back into their schools. Of course, there is a huge debate online between parents who agree and disagree if this should be allowed in schools. I am in total agreement with this form of discipline.
I grew up with this during my school years and it was an influence on my behavior in school. I believe it was a major factor in most of the children behaviors that were exhibited in my school compared to the classrooms of today. The classrooms today are usually unruly and the students are very disrespectful to their teachers. I have experienced this as a substitute teacher and my sister who is a teacher has as well. This behavior affects the learning and education our children receive. How effective will a teacher be if she/he is disrespected and fear retaliation anytime they attempt to enforce the rules?
I have seen videos online with students in a teacher's face, yelling, cursing, and threatening to harm them. Most of the time there are no consequences for these actions. But, it doesn't just stop at the school. Kids nowadays are disrespectful to authority period, rather it's their parents, teachers, etc. What has become almost the norm was not common for children in my generation to behave this way. We were disciplined at home as well as school. We were taught to respect our elders and we were held accountable for the things we did.
Children today have no accountability for the behaviors they display. Society not only removed paddling in schools but it also removed the right from parents to discipline their own children. Psychologist argue that spanking will cause children to be angry and act out, etc. Well, please explain all the school shootings, children killing their parents, cyber bullying, and increased teen suicide rates; just some of the issues that are affecting our youth today.
Taking this right away makes it harder on parents. It takes away the parents authority and and gives children the "if you hit me I am going to call the police" attitude. The same children will become adults who are not accountable for what they do and feel like the world owes them something.
I do believe that the discipline should fit the child. Time out does not work for every child and neither does spanking. I feel that society generalized all children the same and said spanking was wrong all together period. That is not the case, some children respond to that type of discipline. I do not believe paddling and spanking is always the answer but I do believe it should be an option.
Marcee' Bonds
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Recently on social media I saw where a school district in TX has voted to bring paddling back into their schools. Of course, there is a huge debate online between parents who agree and disagree if this should be allowed in schools. I am in total agreement with this form of discipline.
I grew up with this during my school years and it was an influence on my behavior in school. I believe it was a major factor in most of the children behaviors that were exhibited in my school compared to the classrooms of today. The classrooms today are usually unruly and the students are very disrespectful to their teachers. I have experienced this as a substitute teacher and my sister who is a teacher has as well. This behavior affects the learning and education our children receive. How effective will a teacher be if she/he is disrespected and fear retaliation anytime they attempt to enforce the rules?
I have seen videos online with students in a teacher's face, yelling, cursing, and threatening to harm them. Most of the time there are no consequences for these actions. But, it doesn't just stop at the school. Kids nowadays are disrespectful to authority period, rather it's their parents, teachers, etc. What has become almost the norm was not common for children in my generation to behave this way. We were disciplined at home as well as school. We were taught to respect our elders and we were held accountable for the things we did.
Children today have no accountability for the behaviors they display. Society not only removed paddling in schools but it also removed the right from parents to discipline their own children. Psychologist argue that spanking will cause children to be angry and act out, etc. Well, please explain all the school shootings, children killing their parents, cyber bullying, and increased teen suicide rates; just some of the issues that are affecting our youth today.
Taking this right away makes it harder on parents. It takes away the parents authority and and gives children the "if you hit me I am going to call the police" attitude. The same children will become adults who are not accountable for what they do and feel like the world owes them something.
I do believe that the discipline should fit the child. Time out does not work for every child and neither does spanking. I feel that society generalized all children the same and said spanking was wrong all together period. That is not the case, some children respond to that type of discipline. I do not believe paddling and spanking is always the answer but I do believe it should be an option.
Marcee' Bonds
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Tuesday, July 11, 2017
UPDATE!!! Going Live!!...Lets talk...July 19th 8pm CST
Hello everyone,
I was scheduled to go live this Thursday and every one after. But due to scheduling conflicts my go live days will be Tuesday starting July 19th. Thank you for your support join me on my Facebook page. I will discuss my book, parenting topics and anything else that I find interesting. Please remember to send me your parenting questions or concerns that you would like me to discuss.
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Marcee' Bonds
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I was scheduled to go live this Thursday and every one after. But due to scheduling conflicts my go live days will be Tuesday starting July 19th. Thank you for your support join me on my Facebook page. I will discuss my book, parenting topics and anything else that I find interesting. Please remember to send me your parenting questions or concerns that you would like me to discuss.
Respectfully,
Marcee' Bonds
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Wednesday, June 28, 2017
Going Live....Let's Talk!
Hello,
I am so excited about the opportunities that social media gives us to connect and reach out to each other. I am going to start using Facebook live on my page weekly. I will discuss various topics, talk about my book and answer your questions about parenting.
Send your questions or topic suggestions to:
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Live broadcast schedule
Every Thursday @ 8:00 pm CST starting July 13th
Hope to see you there!
Regards,
Marcee' Bonds
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I am so excited about the opportunities that social media gives us to connect and reach out to each other. I am going to start using Facebook live on my page weekly. I will discuss various topics, talk about my book and answer your questions about parenting.
Send your questions or topic suggestions to:
info@marceebonds.com
Live broadcast schedule
Every Thursday @ 8:00 pm CST starting July 13th
Hope to see you there!
Regards,
Marcee' Bonds
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Thursday, June 22, 2017
How do you explain death to your children?
Hello,
Unfortunately, my father died unexpectedly two weeks ago. As I was going thru the emotions of the shock and helping my mom with the funeral arrangements, I was on the fence about taking my 6 year old to the funeral. On one hand I was like this is his grandfather and he knew him even though a short time this would be the last time he would ever see him. Do I deny him to see him one last time? But on the other hand I was thinking will my son even understand what is going on. My child is very inquisitive so I knew he would ask me a bunch of questions about the whole experience. I thought long and hard about it.
I remembered my first experience with death. My paternal grandfather died when I was 9 years old. There was no discussion with my parents about what I was going to experience, but I still have the memory of that experience. I really didn't understand the concept and I didn't understand why everyone was crying and carrying on. But, from that moment I associated funerals as a sad and overwhelming experience. I wasn't sure if I wanted to expose my 6 year old to that experience and let that be his first. I understand death is something we all will have to deal with it but at what age do you explain it to your children.
I decided to take my son to the funeral. He was already aware of what was going on because he was with my mom when she found my dad. I wasn't sure how he would handle it because the kids were at a family members house while the coroner was there doing the things that needed to be done. So this would be the first time he seen his grandfather as well as a dead person as well as going to a funeral. I was a little hesitant but I concluded that I did not want him to regret that he did not pay his last respects to his grandfather.
As I anticipated, he asked a lot of questions during the funeral and it was hard for me to grieve and be a mom at the same time. But he asked away and I answered to my best ability. He went to the bathroom about 3 times during the service, mind you we are seated at the front of the church. He did cry a little but I think that was because everyone else was crying. Then he was playing with his cousins that were sitting behind him. I eventually gave him my phone to watch cartoons on YouTube. That kept him quiet during the rest of the service. But, it did not stop there of course he had questions once we got to the cemetery. At this time I let him stay in the van and watch his shows. I wanted to pay my last respects in peace.
I am not sure how my son feels about the whole thing. Based on his behavior it was just something we did for grandpa. I think he finally understands what was going on it took him some time to process it. A few days later after we came back home, he did say "I miss grandpa" and my response was "we all do".
Of course this will be an on going discussion. I will make myself available to talk to him about it and provide answers he can understand. I am glad that I did decide to take him. Sometimes as parents we overthink things I was worried about him and he handled it a lot better than I expected him to.
Marcee' Bonds
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Unfortunately, my father died unexpectedly two weeks ago. As I was going thru the emotions of the shock and helping my mom with the funeral arrangements, I was on the fence about taking my 6 year old to the funeral. On one hand I was like this is his grandfather and he knew him even though a short time this would be the last time he would ever see him. Do I deny him to see him one last time? But on the other hand I was thinking will my son even understand what is going on. My child is very inquisitive so I knew he would ask me a bunch of questions about the whole experience. I thought long and hard about it.
I remembered my first experience with death. My paternal grandfather died when I was 9 years old. There was no discussion with my parents about what I was going to experience, but I still have the memory of that experience. I really didn't understand the concept and I didn't understand why everyone was crying and carrying on. But, from that moment I associated funerals as a sad and overwhelming experience. I wasn't sure if I wanted to expose my 6 year old to that experience and let that be his first. I understand death is something we all will have to deal with it but at what age do you explain it to your children.
I decided to take my son to the funeral. He was already aware of what was going on because he was with my mom when she found my dad. I wasn't sure how he would handle it because the kids were at a family members house while the coroner was there doing the things that needed to be done. So this would be the first time he seen his grandfather as well as a dead person as well as going to a funeral. I was a little hesitant but I concluded that I did not want him to regret that he did not pay his last respects to his grandfather.
As I anticipated, he asked a lot of questions during the funeral and it was hard for me to grieve and be a mom at the same time. But he asked away and I answered to my best ability. He went to the bathroom about 3 times during the service, mind you we are seated at the front of the church. He did cry a little but I think that was because everyone else was crying. Then he was playing with his cousins that were sitting behind him. I eventually gave him my phone to watch cartoons on YouTube. That kept him quiet during the rest of the service. But, it did not stop there of course he had questions once we got to the cemetery. At this time I let him stay in the van and watch his shows. I wanted to pay my last respects in peace.
I am not sure how my son feels about the whole thing. Based on his behavior it was just something we did for grandpa. I think he finally understands what was going on it took him some time to process it. A few days later after we came back home, he did say "I miss grandpa" and my response was "we all do".
Of course this will be an on going discussion. I will make myself available to talk to him about it and provide answers he can understand. I am glad that I did decide to take him. Sometimes as parents we overthink things I was worried about him and he handled it a lot better than I expected him to.
Marcee' Bonds
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