Wednesday, November 27, 2019
Wednesday, October 2, 2019
Friday, September 6, 2019
Missing In Action
Good morning,
I would like to apologize to everyone that things are delayed on my new book. It is taking me longer than expected but I have a good reason. I am dealing with a chronic illness called Myasthenia Gravis and it has literally changed my life. This illness cause extreme muscle fatigue throughout your whole body. Basically any muscle at any time can be weak which makes me tired. I required rest and medicine to keep this illness under control.
I have good days and no so good days. But each day is something new. I went from an able bodied person to using a walker or wheelchair at times. Even though I now have new challenges I am still grateful to be alive. The book is still coming along and my new goal is to release it in October 2019. I will post a pre-sale by the end of September. You do not want to miss this great inspirational story.
In the meantime, I have created a fund raiser to help with medical expenses with my Myasthenia Gravis. Any amount given is appreciated and please feel free to share with others. Please click to donate
Thank you for taking the time to read. Have a great weekend!!
Regards,
Antuana
I would like to apologize to everyone that things are delayed on my new book. It is taking me longer than expected but I have a good reason. I am dealing with a chronic illness called Myasthenia Gravis and it has literally changed my life. This illness cause extreme muscle fatigue throughout your whole body. Basically any muscle at any time can be weak which makes me tired. I required rest and medicine to keep this illness under control.
I have good days and no so good days. But each day is something new. I went from an able bodied person to using a walker or wheelchair at times. Even though I now have new challenges I am still grateful to be alive. The book is still coming along and my new goal is to release it in October 2019. I will post a pre-sale by the end of September. You do not want to miss this great inspirational story.
In the meantime, I have created a fund raiser to help with medical expenses with my Myasthenia Gravis. Any amount given is appreciated and please feel free to share with others. Please click to donate
Thank you for taking the time to read. Have a great weekend!!
Regards,
Antuana
Friday, March 22, 2019
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I am giving away FREE copies of my book just pay $5.95 S/H. Send a request to marceebonds@gmail.com
Stay Tuned
Hey everyone..I hope all is well and you are having a wonderful day.
I know it has been awhile but life happened and I have been going through a health battle but I am glad that I am still here and God brought me through.
This was a life changing experience for me and I want to share my story for others. I hope my story will be encouraging and inspirational. I will be publishing a short book about it that will be available on Amazon May 2019. It will also be available for pre-order. Stay tuned for more details.
Take care and God Bless
I know it has been awhile but life happened and I have been going through a health battle but I am glad that I am still here and God brought me through.
This was a life changing experience for me and I want to share my story for others. I hope my story will be encouraging and inspirational. I will be publishing a short book about it that will be available on Amazon May 2019. It will also be available for pre-order. Stay tuned for more details.
Take care and God Bless
Tuesday, September 18, 2018
No Wonder Men are Emotionally Unavailable
Hello everyone,
It has been a while since my last post and I will try to increase my activity but I also want to give you all interesting things to read. My son had an incident at school yesterday and my reaction was different than how society expects a male to behave. I will explain.
I picked my son up from school and he starts with he had the worse day ever. I asked him, "Why? What happened? They have a free time or ancillary as they call it and he was not able to play. They have peer monitors and it was three little girls yelling and bullying him saying things like " He can't play. They will throw him outside, etc". I asked him more details but long story short the yelling got him upset and he said he cried about it.
I had to catch myself, because my first thought was to tell him, you don't cry. But, I decided to let him know that his feelings were hurt and it was okay to cry and the next time they yell like that just walk away. He was satisfied with that answer and decided that tomorrow will be a better day and that he will not get so upset and walk away from situations that make him feel uncomfortable. I was feeling relieved tuat he is learning to channel his feelings in a positive way.
We went to the neighborhood store and while checking out he was talking with the cashier about school and his day. He proceeded to tell her what happened and that what happened made him cry. I believe she believed she was helping. She begins to tell my son, "You don't cry. Don't cry in front of your friends. You do that in your room Never let them see you weak. Don't do it."
I clearly rebutted what she said and again clarified things to my son. It is okay to show emotion you were hurt. My son's situation started me to thinking that men are always expected to not show emotion but they are very emotional. Unfortunately, these boys grow up being emotionally unavailable men in all their relationships, not because they want to it's because they have been taught to do this all their lives.
I know I have experienced this in past relationships, all my needs were met except for my emotional needs. I believe most men think as long as they are present and provide for you that is enough. This behavior is so expected that when a man is emotional and sensitive he is considered, soft, weak, less of a man, or having feminine ways. Why is that?
I believe it is okay for men to show emotion, but most times anger is the only emotion they will show to express how they feel. When in reality they want to be loved and needed just like women do. But, how do you ask for that as a strong man? Instead of trying to figure it out they suppress their feelings and hurt a lot of people along they way. Our emotionally health is very important, most irrational decision are triggered by our emotions. Over time, and with maturity most men will let their guard down but it is not an easy feat.
I admire men who are in touch emotionally. My goal is to teach my son to be able to express how he feels. I believe, having pent up feelings over time may lead to destructive behaviors such as abuse, drugs, etc. I hope that one day a man can feel confident and not ridiculed because he is being emotional.
Marcee' Bonds
Author of A Single Mother's Point of View Raising a Black Man
Available on Amazon
www.marceebonds.com
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It has been a while since my last post and I will try to increase my activity but I also want to give you all interesting things to read. My son had an incident at school yesterday and my reaction was different than how society expects a male to behave. I will explain.
I picked my son up from school and he starts with he had the worse day ever. I asked him, "Why? What happened? They have a free time or ancillary as they call it and he was not able to play. They have peer monitors and it was three little girls yelling and bullying him saying things like " He can't play. They will throw him outside, etc". I asked him more details but long story short the yelling got him upset and he said he cried about it.
I had to catch myself, because my first thought was to tell him, you don't cry. But, I decided to let him know that his feelings were hurt and it was okay to cry and the next time they yell like that just walk away. He was satisfied with that answer and decided that tomorrow will be a better day and that he will not get so upset and walk away from situations that make him feel uncomfortable. I was feeling relieved tuat he is learning to channel his feelings in a positive way.
We went to the neighborhood store and while checking out he was talking with the cashier about school and his day. He proceeded to tell her what happened and that what happened made him cry. I believe she believed she was helping. She begins to tell my son, "You don't cry. Don't cry in front of your friends. You do that in your room Never let them see you weak. Don't do it."
I clearly rebutted what she said and again clarified things to my son. It is okay to show emotion you were hurt. My son's situation started me to thinking that men are always expected to not show emotion but they are very emotional. Unfortunately, these boys grow up being emotionally unavailable men in all their relationships, not because they want to it's because they have been taught to do this all their lives.
I know I have experienced this in past relationships, all my needs were met except for my emotional needs. I believe most men think as long as they are present and provide for you that is enough. This behavior is so expected that when a man is emotional and sensitive he is considered, soft, weak, less of a man, or having feminine ways. Why is that?
I believe it is okay for men to show emotion, but most times anger is the only emotion they will show to express how they feel. When in reality they want to be loved and needed just like women do. But, how do you ask for that as a strong man? Instead of trying to figure it out they suppress their feelings and hurt a lot of people along they way. Our emotionally health is very important, most irrational decision are triggered by our emotions. Over time, and with maturity most men will let their guard down but it is not an easy feat.
I admire men who are in touch emotionally. My goal is to teach my son to be able to express how he feels. I believe, having pent up feelings over time may lead to destructive behaviors such as abuse, drugs, etc. I hope that one day a man can feel confident and not ridiculed because he is being emotional.
Marcee' Bonds
Author of A Single Mother's Point of View Raising a Black Man
Available on Amazon
www.marceebonds.com
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Wednesday, June 27, 2018
My 7 Year Old Just Taught Me a Lesson About Motivation
Hello,
I hope this finds you in great spirits. I just had an experience with my 7 year old that showed me how motivation really works.
We are currently working on a project. It is a little mundane and boring but a way to earn a little money with no effort at all, very easy but it will take a while to complete.
So we are working on the project and he is dragging and has no interest at all. He is giving me the "Why am I doing this mom?" attitude or "this is so boring". His lack of enthusiasm has made the project more tedious than it really is.
He asked me a question, " Mom, am I helping you to make money?" I thought to myself yes he is and I told him the same. He gave me a disappointed look like okay I will do this because you are my mom, but this really sucks lol.
So, after a quick second, I said "Hey, if you do this and it works, I will give you $10.00". His eyes lit up and he said with so much excitement, "$10.00!!! I can buy snacks or a toy" From that point he was ready to get this project done. Before I had to tell him to come on let's do it but now I have to slow him down and tell him to wait. He is ready and eager to get this done because now he is motivated because he wants that $10.00.
It was at that moment, I realized that the best way to get people to help you is to offer an incentive to them. Even though ideally we would like help with no expectations but for the most part people help others to get something in return rather it is acknowledgement, monetary or self satisfaction.
Marcee' Bonds
Author of A Single Mother's Point of View Raising a Black Man
www.marceebonds.con
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I hope this finds you in great spirits. I just had an experience with my 7 year old that showed me how motivation really works.
We are currently working on a project. It is a little mundane and boring but a way to earn a little money with no effort at all, very easy but it will take a while to complete.
So we are working on the project and he is dragging and has no interest at all. He is giving me the "Why am I doing this mom?" attitude or "this is so boring". His lack of enthusiasm has made the project more tedious than it really is.
He asked me a question, " Mom, am I helping you to make money?" I thought to myself yes he is and I told him the same. He gave me a disappointed look like okay I will do this because you are my mom, but this really sucks lol.
So, after a quick second, I said "Hey, if you do this and it works, I will give you $10.00". His eyes lit up and he said with so much excitement, "$10.00!!! I can buy snacks or a toy" From that point he was ready to get this project done. Before I had to tell him to come on let's do it but now I have to slow him down and tell him to wait. He is ready and eager to get this done because now he is motivated because he wants that $10.00.
It was at that moment, I realized that the best way to get people to help you is to offer an incentive to them. Even though ideally we would like help with no expectations but for the most part people help others to get something in return rather it is acknowledgement, monetary or self satisfaction.
Marcee' Bonds
Author of A Single Mother's Point of View Raising a Black Man
www.marceebonds.con
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