Obsession: U got it bad

Have you ever listened to this song by Usher and thought to yourself, man he had it bad and you could never see yourself so hung up over somebody. Well I think we all have been here at least once in our lives. You are obessed with someone. You think about them all the time, they are always in your head. Everything reminds you of them. Every, tv show, song on the radio, what you eat for lunch, you just can't help it. You start trying to understand why this person is always on your mind. Sometimes people will confuse their obsession or longing for love, when in reality that is all it is. Most times we obsess over people we can't have or are not sure about, because if they were around more you wouldn't have to think about them so much.

I do not think there is nothing wrong with this. It only becomes a problem when you can't control your emotions behind the obsession. Once you lose control you start doing crazy things, like texting and calling all the time, stalking their facebook page, or just happen to be where they are just to see what's going. I will never understand how people think but we all know the more you try to pursue someone the more they resist and start to think you are crazy and you never fulfill your desire which is to be with that person.

The best option is to step back and give it some space and take this time to evaluate yourself and understand why you are obsessing over this person. This behavior is unhealthy. While you believe that convincing someone to be with you they would want you more but it does not work like that. Just think about people who pursued you that you were not interested in. No matter how hard they tried or what they did, you did not change your mind. The same is here for the person you have this obsession for. I know that giving space and waiting is hard but get busy while you wait and either the person will come back to you or if they don't, your obsession will lessen over time.