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Actual Customer Review (5 stars)

This is an excellent book which outlines how a single mother can and should get past the anger and pain that her child's absentee father has caused her. The author teaches you how to stop draining yourself by trying to force a man to be a father, and instead turn that into positive and productive energy that can be put into both you and your son--to create the best life for both of you.

Marcee' Bonds

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Why Can't We Do Both?

I was watching The View the other day and Whoopi asked a question that really made me think. She asked, why can't employers provide good jobs and take care of their workers? As someone who has been duped by corporate American a time or two, I was a victim of the 2007 recession. I lost my job after 14 years I went from middle class to lower class in 2.3 seconds. It was a harsh reality for me and things changed drastically. We are still seeing the effects of the job market today. There are college educated people working non-skilled jobs to make a living, and the ratio of job seekers to jobs makes it a very competitive market.

But, her question and my experience makes me believe that corporate America is no longer concerned about their workers they are all about that bottom dollar. Everyday you are sure to hear about a business either closing or laying off workers. I understand that businesses are in business to make money. But, there are other ways to trim the fat than to lay off or fire employees who are working paycheck to paycheck to take care of their families. You know it wouldn't hurt the CEO if he/she did not get a bonus that year on top of their 7 figure salary (the average CEO salary is $13.8 million... ref The Glassdoor). Most people will not make that in their lifetime.

I remember when my grandparents and parents would work at one company and retire with a pension. Now it's rare to spend your whole career at one employer and it's rare to get a pension from a company. Most companies today feel all employees are expendable. They will get another one just like you, for less pay to do the same job. I have been in the workforce for 20+ years and the changes I see makes me wonder about how it will be when my 6 year old joins the workforce.

Training Wheels for Life

This Christmas my youngest son got his first bike. He was so excited but since this was all new we were sure to get him one with training wheels. As I watched him learn the in and outs of the bike he eventually felt confident enough to take it outside and ride.

I could tell he was a little unsure at first. He was trying hard to pedal and instead of using the pedal to brake he would put his feet down like the Flintstones. He also did not realize he can use the handle bars to turn the bike left or right. But, once he got it down he was riding like a pro. Then I realize that he will still need more time to learn and have a long way before the training wheels can be taken off.

As I watched him, I thought to myself, why couldn't life give us training wheels that we can keep on until we are able to stand on our own. Well at least the first five years of adulthood when most of us make some of our life changing mistakes. When you first become an adult you are trying to figure life out as well as yourself. There is no easy answer or way to get thru this thing call life, it seems experience seems to be the best teacher. Hopefully, you will learn and gain wisdom from each experience.

I look back on some decisions I made as a young adult that I wouldn't even think of doing today lol. But, if I had training wheels (mentor) to help guide me along the way; who knows what may have happened. Who I am kidding? I would not have listened anyway

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!

Hello,

I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas!! I hope you enjoy your time with family and friends. Take this time to reflect on 2016 as it comes to end. Did you accomplish the goals you set for yourself? Did you do all the things you wanted to? If not, don't feel discouraged just take advantage of the new year to make things happen. Write down your goals and the things needed to make the goals a reality. Speak things into existence and take the steps necessary to make your dreams a reality. Once you do that get ready for the ride of your life. I wish you the best and thank you for taking the time to stop by.

Marcee'

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Milestone....He is in Kindergarten!!

Well I hope you all have been doing well. I have actually been very busy with a lot of things right now, but I felt like I should of blogged about this Milestone with my youngest son. He has started school and is in kindergarten and since day one it has been very interesting. It has been a bittersweet for me. Now that he is in big school he is no longer my baby, It's like once they start school time just flies on by. They become more independent, making friends and learning new things. I am glad to say that he really enjoys school and loves to learn. I hope he continues this attitude all throughout school that would be wonderful for me.

He got his first report card and I am confused instead of grades he has numbers, and it more like a progress report than a report card. Is this something new? With the number system there is not a pass or fail it is out of three choices. 1 means they are in discovery or first steps...2 means they are exploring and showing progress...and 3 means a connection and they are ready to apply it. I guess this is how things are done in Houston ISD.

Overall this has been a good experience for us both. We are in a new city learning new things and having brand new experiences. It is like we are both starting a new adventure. My baby is growing up (tear)

Didn't See This Coming....

The internet never ceases to amaze me. There is always something interesting, crazy and unbelievable going on. But these are my top stories for this week. Some made me sad and others I just smh in disbelief. Thank you for taking the time to read. Please feel free to comment or send you own stories to my email address below.

1.Muhammed Ali dies

2.Prince's cause of death

3.4 Sisters die in car crash I can only imagine this mother's pain

4.Arizona mom kills her 3 sons So sad

5.Mom kills son & herself at gun range smh you never know what's on a persons mind

6.Man poops on grocery store scanner...Eww!!

7.Mother and sons attacks black teen...this is ridiculous

8. Hot mugshot guy getting paroled and headed to Hollywood ...hopefully he will stay out of prison

9.Women stabbed to death by beach umbrella Oh wow..a very freak accident

Question of the week: How soon should I introduce someone to my kids?

Dear Marsay,

I have been thinking about getting back into the dating game and dating as a single mom is not easy. It can be harder because you have to find someone that is good for both you and your kids, which can be stressful. I want to know when is the best time to introduce your kids to someone you are dating?

Mary K.

Dear Mary K.,

Well you have asked a very good question. I know from personal experience it can be very hard to date as a single parent, but not impossible. I applaud you for wanting to get back out there and live your life dating, meeting new people and who knows you may meet that special someone. But, as you stated before you are a package deal and if a man is wanting more with you he has to accept your kids. But, how soon should he meet your children?

I say it depends on the relationship and if it's what you want and something you feel confident in. I would not do it before you know his true intentions. Are you in a committed relationship are you guys exclusive? If you are not sure about the status of the relationship, than you should not introduce your kids. I really can't put a time line on it because every relationship is different and some move faster/slower than others.

I believe you should have some discretion about it. I have seen situations where the children were introduced to every man their mother dated. I do not agree with or recommend this. I believe that every one you date should know you have kids, but your kids should not meet everyone you date. This is my rule to dating. I only introduced my children after the relationship grew and became exclusive and I was clear on where I stood.

I hope this helps but ultimately you will need to do what works best for you and your children. I wish you the best and good luck, the dating world is crazy.

Regards,

Marcee'

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